Erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0 er dj\u00fap og inns\u00fdnargj\u00f6rn n\u00e1lgun \u00ed s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri heilun sem hj\u00e1lpar okkur a\u00f0 skilja og umbreyta \u00fev\u00ed hvernig vi\u00f0 tengjumst okkur sj\u00e1lfum og \u00f6\u00f0rum. H\u00fan byggir \u00e1 \u00feeirri hugmynd a\u00f0 snemma samskipti okkar, s\u00e9rstaklega vi\u00f0 foreldra e\u00f0a a\u00f0alumsj\u00f3nara\u00f0ila, m\u00f3ti innri myndir okkar af okkur sj\u00e1lfum og \u00f6\u00f0rum. \u00deessar innri myndir, e\u00f0a \u201ehlutir\u201c, eins og \u00feau eru oft k\u00f6llu\u00f0, hafa s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00e1hrif \u00e1 heg\u00f0un okkar og tilfinningar \u00ed \u00f6llum okkar l\u00edfsins samb\u00f6ndum. Markmi\u00f0 \u00feessarar me\u00f0fer\u00f0ar er a\u00f0 hj\u00e1lpa f\u00f3lki a\u00f0 \u00fer\u00f3a heilbrig\u00f0ari og meira gefandi tengsl, b\u00e6\u00f0i innra me\u00f0 s\u00e9r og vi\u00f0 umheiminn. \u00deessi tegund me\u00f0fer\u00f0ar b\u00fd\u00f0ur upp \u00e1 t\u00e6kif\u00e6ri til dj\u00faprar sj\u00e1lfsk\u00f6nnunar og varanlegrar breytingar, sem getur leitt til meiri innri fri\u00f0ar og \u00e1n\u00e6gju \u00ed l\u00edfinu. Ef \u00fe\u00fa ert a\u00f0 leita a\u00f0 lei\u00f0 til a\u00f0 skilja \u00feig betur og b\u00e6ta l\u00edfsg\u00e6\u00f0i \u00fe\u00edn, g\u00e6ti \u00feessi n\u00e1lgun veri\u00f0 r\u00e9tta lei\u00f0in fyrir \u00feig. \u00de\u00fa getur lesi\u00f0 meira um mismunandi tegundir s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0ar \u00ed S\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0: Alhli\u00f0a lei\u00f0beiningar.<\/p>\n
Erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0 \u00e1 r\u00e6tur s\u00ednar a\u00f0 rekja til s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegrar greiningar og hefur \u00fer\u00f3ast \u00far henni \u00e1 s\u00ed\u00f0ustu \u00f6ld. \u00de\u00f3tt h\u00fan deili m\u00f6rgum grunnhugmyndum me\u00f0 s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri greiningu, leggur h\u00fan meiri \u00e1herslu \u00e1 snemma samskipti og hvernig \u00feau m\u00f3ta pers\u00f3nuleika okkar og samskiptamynstur. Lykilpers\u00f3nur \u00ed \u00fer\u00f3un \u00feessarar n\u00e1lgunar eru me\u00f0al annars Melanie Klein, sem lag\u00f0i grunninn a\u00f0 hugmyndum um \u201einnri hluti\u201c og snemma varnarvi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0, og s\u00ed\u00f0ar Donald Winnicott, sem r\u00e6ddi mikilv\u00e6gi \u201evi\u00f0haldandi umhverfis\u201c og \u201eraunverulegs sj\u00e1lfs\u201c. Anna\u00f0 mikilv\u00e6gt framlag kom fr\u00e1 W.R.D. Fairbairn, sem h\u00e9lt \u00fev\u00ed fram a\u00f0 samskipti og leit a\u00f0 tengslum v\u00e6ru grunn\u00fe\u00f6rf mannsins, frekar en eing\u00f6ngu \u00e1n\u00e6gju. \u00c1hrif fr\u00e1 s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0<\/a> og s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri greiningu Carl Jungs<\/a> hafa einnig m\u00f3ta\u00f0 \u00feessa n\u00e1lgun. Hugmyndir um \u201einnri hluti\u201c og \u201emyndun samskipta\u201c eru einnig tengdar vi\u00f0 sj\u00e1lfss\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0i, sem leggur \u00e1herslu \u00e1 \u00fe\u00f6rfina fyrir samkennd og endurspeglun \u00ed samskiptum. \u00deessi fj\u00f6lbreytti uppruni hefur skapa\u00f0 r\u00edka og marg\u00fe\u00e6tta skilning \u00e1 innri ver\u00f6ld mannsins og \u00e1hrifum samskipta \u00e1 hana.<\/p>\n \u00cd erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0 er megin\u00e1herslan l\u00f6g\u00f0 \u00e1 a\u00f0 kanna og skilja innri heim einstaklingsins, s\u00e9rstaklega hvernig fyrri samskipti hafa skapa\u00f0 innri myndir af sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r og \u00f6\u00f0rum. Me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ilinn b\u00fdr til \u00f6ruggt og n\u00e6randi umhverfi \u00fear sem einstaklingurinn getur tj\u00e1\u00f0 hugsanir, tilfinningar og minningar frj\u00e1lslega. Lykilatri\u00f0i er a\u00f0 rannsaka \u201esamskiptin milli einstaklingsins og me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ilans\u201c, sem oft endurspeglar vi\u00f0varandi mynstur \u00ed \u00f6\u00f0rum samb\u00f6ndum. Me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ilinn hlustar eftir endurteknum \u00feemum, varnarvi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0um og tilfinningalegum vi\u00f0br\u00f6g\u00f0um sem koma upp \u00ed me\u00f0fer\u00f0arvi\u00f0talinu. \u00deessi n\u00e1lgun hj\u00e1lpar einstaklingnum a\u00f0 \u00f6\u00f0last inns\u00fdn \u00ed \u00feau \u201einnri hlutir\u201c sem hafa veri\u00f0 innri ger\u00f0ir, eins og til d\u00e6mis gagnr\u00fdninn innri r\u00f6dd e\u00f0a upplifun af \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 vera yfirgefinn. Me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 skilja \u00feessi mynstur getur einstaklingurinn byrja\u00f0 a\u00f0 breyta \u00feeim og \u00fer\u00f3a heilbrig\u00f0ari og meira gefandi samskiptam\u00e1ta. T\u00e6kni eins og endurtekning, t\u00falkun og ranns\u00f3kn \u00e1 tilfinningum eru notu\u00f0 til a\u00f0 d\u00fdpka skilninginn. \u00deessi me\u00f0fer\u00f0 er oft svipu\u00f0 s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0<\/a> \u00ed \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 h\u00fan sko\u00f0ar dj\u00fapst\u00e6\u00f0 \u00e1hrif fort\u00ed\u00f0arinnar \u00e1 n\u00fat\u00ed\u00f0ina.<\/p>\n Erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0 hentar einstaklingum sem gl\u00edma vi\u00f0 erfi\u00f0leika \u00ed n\u00e1komnum samb\u00f6ndum, hvort sem \u00fea\u00f0 eru r\u00f3mant\u00edsk samb\u00f6nd, fj\u00f6lskyldutengsl e\u00f0a vin\u00e1tta. \u00deeir sem upplifa endurtekna heg\u00f0unarmynstur sem \u00feeir vilja breyta, eins og a\u00f0 endurtaka ska\u00f0leg samb\u00f6nd e\u00f0a eiga erfitt me\u00f0 a\u00f0 setja m\u00f6rk, geta haft mikinn \u00e1vinning af \u00feessari n\u00e1lgun. F\u00f3lk me\u00f0 l\u00e1gt sj\u00e1lfsmat, sem finnur fyrir st\u00f6\u00f0ugri gagnr\u00fdni \u00e1 sj\u00e1lfan sig, e\u00f0a sem hefur upplifa\u00f0 \u00e1f\u00f6ll \u00ed bernsku, getur einnig fundi\u00f0 h\u00e9r lei\u00f0 til bata. Kv\u00ed\u00f0i, \u00feunglyndi og tilfinningalegur \u00f3st\u00f6\u00f0ugleiki geta einnig veri\u00f0 \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0ur fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 leita \u00feessarar me\u00f0fer\u00f0ar. \u00deessi me\u00f0fer\u00f0 er s\u00e9rstaklega gagnleg fyrir \u00fe\u00e1 sem vilja \u00f6\u00f0last d\u00fdpri skilning \u00e1 sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r og \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0unum fyrir \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 \u00feeir haga s\u00e9r eins og \u00feeir gera. \u00dea\u00f0 er ekki miki\u00f0 um \u00e1kve\u00f0nar fr\u00e1bendingar, en \u00fea\u00f0 er mikilv\u00e6gt a\u00f0 finna me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ila sem passar vel vi\u00f0 \u00fearfir hvers og eins. Sumir einstaklingar g\u00e6tu fundi\u00f0 svipu\u00f0 vi\u00f0fangsefni \u00ed samskipta \u00e1herslu s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0.<\/p>\n Til a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a h\u00e6fur erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ili \u00fearf ma\u00f0ur a\u00f0 gangast undir \u00edtarlegt og s\u00e9rh\u00e6ft n\u00e1m. \u00deetta felur oft \u00ed s\u00e9r grunnn\u00e1m \u00ed s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0i e\u00f0a skyldum greinum, en s\u00ed\u00f0an \u00fearf ma\u00f0ur a\u00f0 s\u00e6kja s\u00e9r\u00fej\u00e1lfun \u00ed s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ilegri s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0 me\u00f0 \u00e1herslu \u00e1 samskiptafr\u00e6\u00f0i. \u00deetta n\u00e1m felur \u00ed s\u00e9r b\u00e6\u00f0i fr\u00e6\u00f0ilega kennslu og kl\u00edn\u00edka \u00fej\u00e1lfun, \u00fear sem nemendur vinna undir handlei\u00f0slu reyndra me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ila. Margir me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ilar \u00e1 \u00feessu svi\u00f0i hafa einnig eigin s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0 til a\u00f0 vinna \u00far eigin innri m\u00e1lum og \u00f6\u00f0last d\u00fdpri skilning \u00e1 ferlinu. Vottun fr\u00e1 vi\u00f0urkenndum stofnunum er oft nau\u00f0synleg til a\u00f0 starfa \u00e1 \u00feessu svi\u00f0i. \u00deegar \u00fe\u00fa leitar a\u00f0 me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ila er gott a\u00f0 spyrja um menntun \u00feeirra, reynslu af \u00feessari n\u00e1lgun og hvort \u00feeir s\u00e9u tengdir vi\u00f0 fagf\u00e9l\u00f6g. \u00dea\u00f0 er mikilv\u00e6gt a\u00f0 finna me\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ila sem \u00fe\u00e9r l\u00ed\u00f0ur vel me\u00f0 og sem \u00fe\u00fa treystir.<\/p>\n Uppg\u00f6tva\u00f0u kraftinn \u00ed d\u00fdpri sj\u00e1lfsskynjun og heilbrig\u00f0ari samb\u00f6ndum me\u00f0 erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0. Leyf\u00f0u okkur a\u00f0 lei\u00f0a \u00feig \u00e1fram \u00e1 \u00feessari vegfer\u00f0.<\/p>\nA\u00f0fer\u00f0ir og t\u00e6kni<\/h2>\n
Hver s\u00e6kir um erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0?<\/h2>\n
Hvernig \u00e1 a\u00f0 ver\u00f0a erliefnisger\u00f0 og samskipta s\u00e1lfr\u00e6\u00f0ime\u00f0fer\u00f0ara\u00f0ili<\/h2>\n
FAQ: Algengar spurningar<\/h2>\n
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